How to realise true Advaita in divine love?

 spṛśati yadi mukundo rādhikāṁ tat sakhīnām

bhavati vapuṣi kampaḥ sveda romaïca vāṣpam
adhara-madhu mudāsyāś cet pibaty eṣa yatnāt
bhavati bata tad āsāṁ mattatā citram etat

(Govinda-līlāmṛta 11.137, Śrī Rasika-Candra)

"How amazing! When Mukunda touches Rädhikä, Her girlfriends cry of ecstasy and their bodies tremble, perspire, and are studded with goosepimples, and when Kåñëa blissfully........give me one para metaphysical analysis of this drinks the honey of Rädhikä's lips (by kissing Her), then they all become mad!"

This verse reveals a metaphysics of distributed bliss and shared embodiment, where Rādhā functions as the luminous center of a conscious field rather than as a solitary experiencer. Mukunda’s touch is singular in action but plural in effect, producing tremor, perspiration, horripilation, and tears in the sakhīs, not by sympathy alone but through ontological intimacy, where proximity to divine love dissolves the borders of the self. When Kṛṣṇa drinks the honey of Rādhā’s lips, the sakhīs’ madness is not emotional collapse but overflow, a state where awareness exceeds form and rasa outruns containment. Metaphysically, the verse proposes that in līlā the act belongs to one, the enjoyment to many, and that love at its highest pitch converts witnessing into participation, making consciousness itself vibrate, weep, and tremble without direct touch.

From this verse, advaita reveals itself not as numerical sameness or the erasure of persons, but as oneness in love’s operation. Mukunda touches only Rādhā, yet the sakhīs’ bodies answer as if touched themselves. The act remains located, but the experience becomes shared. This is not gross oneness of substance, where many collapse into one, but a subtle non-duality of bhāva, where love synchronizes distinct selves without dissolving them. Each sakhī remains herself, yet her consciousness is so attuned to Rādhā that Rādhā’s joy propagates through her as her own sensation. When Kṛṣṇa drinks the honey of Rādhā’s lips, the resulting “madness” of the sakhīs is not confusion of identity but unity of relish, a single current of ānanda flowing through many vessels. Thus advaita here means that love abolishes separation at the level of experience while preserving difference at the level of form. Oneness is not achieved by becoming identical, but by becoming inseparable in intention, feeling, and delight.